Whats your flavour?...

Just as BDSM is a different type of relationship to normal or 'vanilla' couples, there are many subgroups encompassed by the term of BDSM. To name a few; Dominant/submissive, Master/slave, Sadism/masochism, Owner/pet, Top/bottom, Daddy/daughter (NOT incest), Master/pony girl and Master/puppy girl. Many of these different groups fit under the term Master/slave but each has their own specifics. For your benefit i will try and explain them to the best of my knowledge but even as i outline the differences between them it is important to remember that every BDSM relationship is different, just as any vanilla relationship is. There will be kinks specific to those involved and rules that may apply to one sub but not another in a similar relationship.

Master/slave is where the submissive partner gives total control to the Dominant one.

Sadism/masochism: Sadists gain sexual pleasure from the pain and suffering of others. This is often coupled with a need to be Dominant and control aspects or all of the relationship. In comparison to this a masochist derives pleasure from receiving pain and in some situations being humiliated.

Top/bottom: This term can be applied to any and all lifestyle relationships. More often used by less, for lack of a better word, 'hardcore' couples. Perhaps by those who just play in the bedroom. It is a description of a persons position in the relationship and rarely used as a title.

Owner/pet, Master/puppy girl, Master/pony girl i do not have enough experience in any of these relationships to do them justice. They all have their own intricacies, but what they have in common is an element of role play. whether it be the transcendence into an animal or simply the state or mind. pony girls may wear tails, either attached to a harness or butt plug, they may shave their head into a mane and only ever act like a good pony should, even in some situations living their lives in a stable. i envy those who are able to give into their submission so completely as to do this, but it is not something i could do.

Daddy/daughter This i can speak about at length. It is the type of relationship im in with my Master, whom i call Daddy. at this point i must stress the parameters of our relationship because it can be taken very wrongly. Master and i are not related, by blood or otherwise. We do not pretend to be. I do not pretend to be younger then i am. Master looks after me like a Daddy would. Its a very nurturing relationship. Master encourages me to, and to use the military cliche, be all i can be. i know exactly how much i am worth and i am proud to be His. Other D/d relationships do encompass at times an element of age play. ours does not, but as long as all parties are consenting and above the legal age i personally cannot see any problems with that.

i guess what im trying to say is, there are so many different types of relationships. The BDSM lifestyle has so many labels applied to it but really its just people who are comfortable enough with themselves to be honest about what they like and want in a relationship and in life in general. Even with what ive explained you cannot possibly limit people to the parameters ive set down here. The beauty of a lifestyle relationship is that people are free to express themselves completely. This allows every relationship to be uniquely different. Tailored to the individual instead of the norms of society.

respectfully,
girl