Friday, January 22
Mad Max
i know this dosnt really fit the theme of the blog, but my Master has given me a puppy, and for those who would like to meet him.....heres Max (hes still a bit damp from his bath which he wasnt thrilled with)
Wednesday, January 20
New pics of Dungeon
Enjoy, heres some updated pics of the dungon....keep trying to figure out what the fan is for jaime :P
The table is set up at the perfect height with hooks and rings for restraints and the spreader bars on the wall.
wider shot, both my Master and i are very pleased with what we have accomplished so far.
Stocks are set up, checker plating on the wall with all our gear hung up and the internal suspension hooks hanging from the beam
The table is set up at the perfect height with hooks and rings for restraints and the spreader bars on the wall.
wider shot, both my Master and i are very pleased with what we have accomplished so far.
Stocks are set up, checker plating on the wall with all our gear hung up and the internal suspension hooks hanging from the beam
Wednesday, January 6
Whats your flavour?...
Just as BDSM is a different type of relationship to normal or 'vanilla' couples, there are many subgroups encompassed by the term of BDSM. To name a few; Dominant/submissive, Master/slave, Sadism/masochism, Owner/pet, Top/bottom, Daddy/daughter (NOT incest), Master/pony girl and Master/puppy girl. Many of these different groups fit under the term Master/slave but each has their own specifics. For your benefit i will try and explain them to the best of my knowledge but even as i outline the differences between them it is important to remember that every BDSM relationship is different, just as any vanilla relationship is. There will be kinks specific to those involved and rules that may apply to one sub but not another in a similar relationship.
Master/slave is where the submissive partner gives total control to the Dominant one.
Sadism/masochism: Sadists gain sexual pleasure from the pain and suffering of others. This is often coupled with a need to be Dominant and control aspects or all of the relationship. In comparison to this a masochist derives pleasure from receiving pain and in some situations being humiliated.
Top/bottom: This term can be applied to any and all lifestyle relationships. More often used by less, for lack of a better word, 'hardcore' couples. Perhaps by those who just play in the bedroom. It is a description of a persons position in the relationship and rarely used as a title.
Owner/pet, Master/puppy girl, Master/pony girl i do not have enough experience in any of these relationships to do them justice. They all have their own intricacies, but what they have in common is an element of role play. whether it be the transcendence into an animal or simply the state or mind. pony girls may wear tails, either attached to a harness or butt plug, they may shave their head into a mane and only ever act like a good pony should, even in some situations living their lives in a stable. i envy those who are able to give into their submission so completely as to do this, but it is not something i could do.
Daddy/daughter This i can speak about at length. It is the type of relationship im in with my Master, whom i call Daddy. at this point i must stress the parameters of our relationship because it can be taken very wrongly. Master and i are not related, by blood or otherwise. We do not pretend to be. I do not pretend to be younger then i am. Master looks after me like a Daddy would. Its a very nurturing relationship. Master encourages me to, and to use the military cliche, be all i can be. i know exactly how much i am worth and i am proud to be His. Other D/d relationships do encompass at times an element of age play. ours does not, but as long as all parties are consenting and above the legal age i personally cannot see any problems with that.
i guess what im trying to say is, there are so many different types of relationships. The BDSM lifestyle has so many labels applied to it but really its just people who are comfortable enough with themselves to be honest about what they like and want in a relationship and in life in general. Even with what ive explained you cannot possibly limit people to the parameters ive set down here. The beauty of a lifestyle relationship is that people are free to express themselves completely. This allows every relationship to be uniquely different. Tailored to the individual instead of the norms of society.
respectfully,
girl
Master/slave is where the submissive partner gives total control to the Dominant one.
Sadism/masochism: Sadists gain sexual pleasure from the pain and suffering of others. This is often coupled with a need to be Dominant and control aspects or all of the relationship. In comparison to this a masochist derives pleasure from receiving pain and in some situations being humiliated.
Top/bottom: This term can be applied to any and all lifestyle relationships. More often used by less, for lack of a better word, 'hardcore' couples. Perhaps by those who just play in the bedroom. It is a description of a persons position in the relationship and rarely used as a title.
Owner/pet, Master/puppy girl, Master/pony girl i do not have enough experience in any of these relationships to do them justice. They all have their own intricacies, but what they have in common is an element of role play. whether it be the transcendence into an animal or simply the state or mind. pony girls may wear tails, either attached to a harness or butt plug, they may shave their head into a mane and only ever act like a good pony should, even in some situations living their lives in a stable. i envy those who are able to give into their submission so completely as to do this, but it is not something i could do.
Daddy/daughter This i can speak about at length. It is the type of relationship im in with my Master, whom i call Daddy. at this point i must stress the parameters of our relationship because it can be taken very wrongly. Master and i are not related, by blood or otherwise. We do not pretend to be. I do not pretend to be younger then i am. Master looks after me like a Daddy would. Its a very nurturing relationship. Master encourages me to, and to use the military cliche, be all i can be. i know exactly how much i am worth and i am proud to be His. Other D/d relationships do encompass at times an element of age play. ours does not, but as long as all parties are consenting and above the legal age i personally cannot see any problems with that.
i guess what im trying to say is, there are so many different types of relationships. The BDSM lifestyle has so many labels applied to it but really its just people who are comfortable enough with themselves to be honest about what they like and want in a relationship and in life in general. Even with what ive explained you cannot possibly limit people to the parameters ive set down here. The beauty of a lifestyle relationship is that people are free to express themselves completely. This allows every relationship to be uniquely different. Tailored to the individual instead of the norms of society.
respectfully,
girl
Tuesday, January 5
Safety Dance
i know ive mentioned safe words before but i really want to re-enforce just how important they are. In a BDSM relationship control is not taken away from the submissive partner it is instead *given* to the Dominant. This gift of submission and control shouldnt be given lightly without consideration, nor in my opinion should it be given without a safe word or words being in place. Having a safe word allows me to go further into my submission and to participate in more simply because i have the ability to stop it if and when it becomes too much.
In this context a safe word is a word that the submissive partner can use when play becomes too much for them. One quite common group of safe words that are used are Red, Yellow and Green or variations of. Red meaning stop, Yellow meaning slow down and Green meaning more or continue. Any word can be used as a safe word but it is advisable to choose a word that would not normally fit into the context of sex.
It is a common misconception that safe words are used only when the submissive partners pain thresh hold has been breached but this is not true. The act of submission and also Domination is a very psychological thing. There could be times where a submissive just cannot mentally take anymore and their Dom needs to respect this but it may also get to the point where the sub is unable to use their safeword and their Master needs to be on the lookout for this.
Safe words are not only for the use of a submissive.For example a sub may misbehave to indicate they want harsher treatment. Their Dom may use a safe word to indicate they are not willing to go any further. Also when in a group situation, such as a play party or a dungeon there will be a designated person, or observer who will keep an eye on play and will have a set of safe words (similar to Red, Green, Yellow) that they will use when they believe play is getting out of hand, or a specific incident which breaches the rules occurs.
A submissive should always use their safe word when they feel they need to. If they dont they turn their partner into their unwilling rapist. As harsh as that sounds in my opinion it is just as bad to refuse to say your safeword as it is to have it ignored.
Some people believe that a safe word is not needed, but to me the consequences of not having one are not worth it. Physical injury and permanent damage could occur, mental disorders such as PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder) and DID (Dissociative Identity Disorder) and to me these risks outweigh any argument that can be used against the use of a safe word.
A safe word keeps everyone involved in play safe. And should be used appropriately.
Respectfully,
girl
In this context a safe word is a word that the submissive partner can use when play becomes too much for them. One quite common group of safe words that are used are Red, Yellow and Green or variations of. Red meaning stop, Yellow meaning slow down and Green meaning more or continue. Any word can be used as a safe word but it is advisable to choose a word that would not normally fit into the context of sex.
It is a common misconception that safe words are used only when the submissive partners pain thresh hold has been breached but this is not true. The act of submission and also Domination is a very psychological thing. There could be times where a submissive just cannot mentally take anymore and their Dom needs to respect this but it may also get to the point where the sub is unable to use their safeword and their Master needs to be on the lookout for this.
Safe words are not only for the use of a submissive.For example a sub may misbehave to indicate they want harsher treatment. Their Dom may use a safe word to indicate they are not willing to go any further. Also when in a group situation, such as a play party or a dungeon there will be a designated person, or observer who will keep an eye on play and will have a set of safe words (similar to Red, Green, Yellow) that they will use when they believe play is getting out of hand, or a specific incident which breaches the rules occurs.
A submissive should always use their safe word when they feel they need to. If they dont they turn their partner into their unwilling rapist. As harsh as that sounds in my opinion it is just as bad to refuse to say your safeword as it is to have it ignored.
Some people believe that a safe word is not needed, but to me the consequences of not having one are not worth it. Physical injury and permanent damage could occur, mental disorders such as PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder) and DID (Dissociative Identity Disorder) and to me these risks outweigh any argument that can be used against the use of a safe word.
A safe word keeps everyone involved in play safe. And should be used appropriately.
Respectfully,
girl
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