View From the Other Side of the Fish Bowl

So much has changed since i last posted here. i am still collared to my wonderful Master but in addition i am also the demi-Domme of the lovely slave girl 'c' that i share with Master. Yes you read right demi-Domme i have broadened my expertise and i do occasionally stand on the other side of the riding crop. A good friend titled me 'demi-Domme' because although i do on occasions take on a Dominant role im an almost-but-not-quite-Domme. c lives with Master and i and it all works so well and has done for the entire 3 months she's been here. We have had bumps and issues but we all communicate to work them out. We also have a king sized bed *giggles* its soooo comfy :P

im really enjoying releasing my Dominant side. Originally i hadn't known it existed but wanted to try and be a little sadistic. When c came to join us though, i found myself feeling very protective over her and wanting to take care and exert a certain level of control. she has been wonderful through my learning journey. Not even complaining when i miss the intended target and land the whip on her thighs :P. We've even played publicly at one of the larger South Australian play parties organised here. At one stage we played so hard i made her BLEED!!! which was an enjoyable shock for all 3 of us.

i dont wear my specially made spiked collar anymore. Instead i have a custom steel collar with a padlock and engraved message on it. Master and i are still just as close, this isnt to say we havnt had learning curves but thats what makes us close and we work for what we have, never just expecting it to happen for us.

stay tuned for more

respectfully,
girl


In my next post ill talk more about our new found love of public play :)
(bare with me while i get back into my writing groove)

Caught Bare Arsed and Red Handed

im very open about my involvement in the lifestyle, my friends know and i post about it on twitter, and this blog is up there for anybody to see. But i wonder what i would do if someone from my family read this blog. id like to think that ive expressed not only my enjoyment about being part of the lifestyle but also my love for my Master which is so very obviously mutual in these posts. And that even if those reading it don't agree with what im writing, they could see how happy its making me and how it wasn't just a spur of the moment decision to submit.

i was first curious about the lifestyle in my mid teens. i read anything i could get my hands on about it and id like to think i tried to achieve a holistic understanding of the lifestyle. i wasn't active in the lifestyle until i was over 18. i found genuine people to talk to and learnt even more and became more interested.

Looking back...i took risks i shouldn't have and without the precautions i should have taken. But im glad i took the risk to meet my Master because it couldn't possibly have worked out better. im safe, im loved, im protected and cherished. And even though i doubt this is a situation my family would have liked me to be in, i think they would be happy that im happy and in no danger of being hurt (well....hurt in a bad way *grins*)

I know this is not the usual style of post but its something ive been musing over this for a couple of weeks now and wanted to put my thoughts down in writing.

respectfully,
girl

Fishing for compliments

I thought id surprise you all and throw in a text post. Ive also decided to give this blog a bit more of a personal twist.

During the Easter long weekend Master and i went camping on Kangaroo Island. I love that He is happy to take me places and be seen with me. To introduce me to friends and family and to continue to be familiar with me when we are in public. Not all slaves are afforded such a luxury. Whether this is because their Masters are embarrassed to be seen with them and the connotations that are associated with it. Or because They see Their slaves as more of an object and it would never occur to Them to take their property anywhere. The latter is more acceptable to me as it is an extension of submission. However i cant stand Dominants who are embarrassed either of Their slave or of the lifestyle they live.

my Master however neither sees me as an object nor is embarrassed by me. He is equally as open about the lifestyle we live as i am. This only serves to make me love and adore Him more and i have no doubt that i am loved in return. Anyway i digress..

Master and i left Friday afternoon in what, in my opinion, is the best vehicle in the world. An old Toyota land cruiser. It felt like we were embarking on an intrepid lion hunting safari. So in true David Attenbourgh style we boarded the ferry and made our way to the island. Barring a family sitting in front of us who possessed a shared IQ and no INSIDE VOICES the trip was fairly good.



The scenery there was just perfect and even though i was tired i could appreciate the difference on the island from the mainland. We set up camp and lit a fire and had a relaxing night with sausages eaten next to the campfire. Master and i rolled out the swag in the back of the landcruiser and zipped up the canvas to sleep in toasty warmness. Somehow i managed to steal the blankets even in a swag. I maintain its an art form that i cant let go out of practice. During the night we put some yabbie nets in the dam too see how many were still in there and were happy to see that there was a good supply of yabbies living there.



The next day dawned with a light breeze which we lamented as we ate our breakfast of bacon and egg sammiches. Because even a light breeze made the sea too rough to put the boat in and go fishing. We drove to Masters friends house were i was introduced and we spent a few hours there with Master catching up. We decided to go to the beach and try our luck fishing from the sand.



Master caught a mullet but there was no more fish to be had. There was however the remnants of other unlucky fishermen left buried in the beach.



The next day was far more fruitful and we went out on the boat. Master and his friend caught between them 2 squid, 2 leather jackets, 1 whiting and a sweep. There was various other trash fish and undersized ones. I caught 6 fish all up :) and it was fun.

After scaling and doing whatever it is Master does with a squid to make it into squid tubes we went back to the camp for a well earned early night so we could be up to catch the ferry back home the next day.

Ill throw in some more photos i took, but i had so much fun. Not only did i get to spend time with Master i got to go camping and fishing too. were planning on going back for the ANZAC weekend. No slave could ask for a better Master.



The view from the front of the landcruiser driving to our camp site.



The awesome dash of the landcruiser



The sad view from the window of the ferry as we left.

Hope everyone else had an equally good Easter

respectfully,
girl

New picture of Max

WE CANT STOP HERE!!!!!!!......ITS BAT COUNTRY!


Stare into my eyes, are you concentrating...you are now under my control...I CAN BE HAVING STEAKZ


*bounce* watcha doin?

Collar

a few months ago Master has a collar made for me. Heres some photos of it for any interested. Its my 'going out collar' so i wear it proudly whenever i leave the house. i have another for play. Also im aware ive been posting mostly photo articles lately but ive been busy with classes. expect a written post soon.

respectfully,
girl

Wings

Yes or No? what are your thoughts of this for a tattoo design?

Respectfully,
girl

Mad Max

i know this dosnt really fit the theme of the blog, but my Master has given me a puppy, and for those who would like to meet him.....heres Max (hes still a bit damp from his bath which he wasnt thrilled with)

New pics of Dungeon

Enjoy, heres some updated pics of the dungon....keep trying to figure out what the fan is for jaime :P

The table is set up at the perfect height with hooks and rings for restraints and the spreader bars on the wall.



wider shot, both my Master and i are very pleased with what we have accomplished so far.





Stocks are set up, checker plating on the wall with all our gear hung up and the internal suspension hooks hanging from the beam

Whats your flavour?...

Just as BDSM is a different type of relationship to normal or 'vanilla' couples, there are many subgroups encompassed by the term of BDSM. To name a few; Dominant/submissive, Master/slave, Sadism/masochism, Owner/pet, Top/bottom, Daddy/daughter (NOT incest), Master/pony girl and Master/puppy girl. Many of these different groups fit under the term Master/slave but each has their own specifics. For your benefit i will try and explain them to the best of my knowledge but even as i outline the differences between them it is important to remember that every BDSM relationship is different, just as any vanilla relationship is. There will be kinks specific to those involved and rules that may apply to one sub but not another in a similar relationship.

Master/slave is where the submissive partner gives total control to the Dominant one.

Sadism/masochism: Sadists gain sexual pleasure from the pain and suffering of others. This is often coupled with a need to be Dominant and control aspects or all of the relationship. In comparison to this a masochist derives pleasure from receiving pain and in some situations being humiliated.

Top/bottom: This term can be applied to any and all lifestyle relationships. More often used by less, for lack of a better word, 'hardcore' couples. Perhaps by those who just play in the bedroom. It is a description of a persons position in the relationship and rarely used as a title.

Owner/pet, Master/puppy girl, Master/pony girl i do not have enough experience in any of these relationships to do them justice. They all have their own intricacies, but what they have in common is an element of role play. whether it be the transcendence into an animal or simply the state or mind. pony girls may wear tails, either attached to a harness or butt plug, they may shave their head into a mane and only ever act like a good pony should, even in some situations living their lives in a stable. i envy those who are able to give into their submission so completely as to do this, but it is not something i could do.

Daddy/daughter This i can speak about at length. It is the type of relationship im in with my Master, whom i call Daddy. at this point i must stress the parameters of our relationship because it can be taken very wrongly. Master and i are not related, by blood or otherwise. We do not pretend to be. I do not pretend to be younger then i am. Master looks after me like a Daddy would. Its a very nurturing relationship. Master encourages me to, and to use the military cliche, be all i can be. i know exactly how much i am worth and i am proud to be His. Other D/d relationships do encompass at times an element of age play. ours does not, but as long as all parties are consenting and above the legal age i personally cannot see any problems with that.

i guess what im trying to say is, there are so many different types of relationships. The BDSM lifestyle has so many labels applied to it but really its just people who are comfortable enough with themselves to be honest about what they like and want in a relationship and in life in general. Even with what ive explained you cannot possibly limit people to the parameters ive set down here. The beauty of a lifestyle relationship is that people are free to express themselves completely. This allows every relationship to be uniquely different. Tailored to the individual instead of the norms of society.

respectfully,
girl

Safety Dance

i know ive mentioned safe words before but i really want to re-enforce just how important they are. In a BDSM relationship control is not taken away from the submissive partner it is instead *given* to the Dominant. This gift of submission and control shouldnt be given lightly without consideration, nor in my opinion should it be given without a safe word or words being in place. Having a safe word allows me to go further into my submission and to participate in more simply because i have the ability to stop it if and when it becomes too much.

In this context a safe word is a word that the submissive partner can use when play becomes too much for them. One quite common group of safe words that are used are Red, Yellow and Green or variations of. Red meaning stop, Yellow meaning slow down and Green meaning more or continue. Any word can be used as a safe word but it is advisable to choose a word that would not normally fit into the context of sex.

It is a common misconception that safe words are used only when the submissive partners pain thresh hold has been breached but this is not true. The act of submission and also Domination is a very psychological thing. There could be times where a submissive just cannot mentally take anymore and their Dom needs to respect this but it may also get to the point where the sub is unable to use their safeword and their Master needs to be on the lookout for this.

Safe words are not only for the use of a submissive.For example a sub may misbehave to indicate they want harsher treatment. Their Dom may use a safe word to indicate they are not willing to go any further. Also when in a group situation, such as a play party or a dungeon there will be a designated person, or observer who will keep an eye on play and will have a set of safe words (similar to Red, Green, Yellow) that they will use when they believe play is getting out of hand, or a specific incident which breaches the rules occurs.

A submissive should always use their safe word when they feel they need to. If they dont they turn their partner into their unwilling rapist. As harsh as that sounds in my opinion it is just as bad to refuse to say your safeword as it is to have it ignored.

Some people believe that a safe word is not needed, but to me the consequences of not having one are not worth it. Physical injury and permanent damage could occur, mental disorders such as PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder) and DID (Dissociative Identity Disorder) and to me these risks outweigh any argument that can be used against the use of a safe word.

A safe word keeps everyone involved in play safe. And should be used appropriately.

Respectfully,
girl